Characteristics of Japanese Brides
At first, you might have the impression that Japanese women are oppressed, timid, unable to make independent decisions, and basically are only good at listening to their husband. But in many cases it is just an illusion. Women have always been required to behave in this way. And in all likelihood, even in the past, the subordination of Japanese women has never been so unconditional. The older women of Japan, although they seem to be obedient, for the most part have a strong character and will.
As for everyday life, Japanese brides decide all economic issues themselves. It even leaves an impression that many men hide behind the indecision mask, because of their self-disbelief, the inability to achieve anything and the desire to rely on someone else. Men love to pretend that they understand everything, women, on the contrary, seek to hide their abilities and show that everything they do and say is evidence of the wisdom of the head of the family. They want to show that everything they do is directed to making the husband happy.
Appearance of a Typical Japanese Bride
Most of the Japanese brides have a large face, but they don’t make a problem out of it. It’s actually the opposite, because large face is considered a sign of beauty and kawaii in Japan. Besides, Japanese women spend a lot of time making their large faces even bigger. Huge knitted hats with large pom-poms that are worn until summer, even in warm weather, are very popular in Japan. All of this came from anime and manga comics, where all the characters also have large faces.
Although some gourmets prefer juicy Japanese women, thinness is still an indisputable sign of beauty. Japanese brides were able to set a world record in reducing their own weight and dieting.
Genetically, Japanese brides have dark skin. Just like many other Asians, they strive to be white and are quite successful at it. Japanese women are the most white-skinned nation among Asians. This is achieved with the help of high-quality Japanese cosmetics: sunscreen and bleaching products. Even when it’s summer time, many Japanese women wear long sleeves that cover their bodies, and they wear gauze bandages on their faces for the same purpose — to protect themselves from sunburn.
There is also a small percentage of Japanese women who prefer to be dark. They spend a lot of time on the beaches, have fun, and don’t care about the opinion of others.
Bow legs are not considered a disadvantage in Japan, because it is quite difficult to cure, and most of the population has such a defect.
Japanese Brides And Their Style of Clothing
Some of you probably think of Japanese as the ones who only dress in kimono or in a strict suit, in which they work 23 hours a day, collect nanorobots, draw anime and eat sushi.
However, fashion in the land of the rising sun radically at the end of the last century. This happened thanks to teenagers who participated in countless subcultures, creating a unique style. New fashion trends began to quickly penetrate the culture of Japan and spread to other countries.
Now the Japanese modern style of clothing is a riot of colors and fantasy accessories that only the Japanese could think of.
You can define the representatives of this style long before they appear Why? Because they have all sorts of bows, minions, key chains, badges and other things hanging on them. In general, the name of the style speaks for itself.
This style is based on the Japanese love of anime and computer games. In Japan, this kind of hobby is so developed that almost every Japanese has his favorite cartoon or computer character, whom they imitate in almost everything, and especially in clothing.
This style also shows the indifference of the Japanese to cartoons. Kawai has more cute characters such as toys and animals comparing to cosplay style.
In 2004, the style of Kigurumi became a real fashion phenomenon. It appeared thanks to the girls who spent the whole day on the street and needed comfortable clothes. Because of the lack of money, they chose an excellent cheap option, which were overalls in the form of animals.
This style of clothing refers to the dance subculture. The main features are accessories of neon colors and whistles.
Very feminine and cute style that will suit any girl. These are cute dresses in pastel colors with ruffles, bows and delicate curls. Lolits also like the abundance of jewelry, though here they are completely different: umbrellas, hairpins with bows and hearts.
Representatives of the style of KoGal do everything to look as young as possible. Often they discolor hair, use tanning and shorten school uniform skirts. They also wear high socks, which, at times, have to be glued to their feet, so that they hold on properly.
In Japan, ganguro is considered a glamorous style, but such an appearance can hardly be called attractive. Girls who follow the style of ganguro spend most of their life in tanning beds in order to become as brown as possible. The clothes are often pink and extremely vulgar.
This style in its tones and accessories is very similar to the French Provence, since mori can be called the embodiment of romance and femininity.
Mori girls wear multi-layered outfits and pretty little dresses with an abundance of lace and ruches, mostly preferring vintage. Forest nymphs also like delicate floral prints, accessories from natural leather, and gold-plated jewelry. They prefer not to use cosmetics.
What is a Geisha?
A geisha is a woman that wears a kimono and prefers traditional Japanese makeup and styling, whose duties include singing, dancing and arranging tea ceremonies to entertain guests. Young girls who study with more experienced geishas are called “maiko”. Compared to full-fledged geishas, their make-up is brighter, they make traditional hairstyles from their own hair, unlike geishas who mostly wear wigs. Footwear of Japanese geishas, and in particular maiko, are called pokkuri geta - this is a special kind of traditional Japanese shoes, only on a high platform.
The main work of geishas is to hold banquets in the traditional Japanese style, where the girl is practically the mistress of the event, entertaining invited men and women. Japanese geisha should be able to support any conversation and entertain guests. Flirting is also one of their duties, but not more than that. Depending on the school, where the geisha studied, she can dance in one or many ways. This not only pleasure to watch, but it also has a special meaning. The dance of the Japanese geisha virtually eliminates any facial expressions, and the main focus is on postures and movements.
Back in the day, girls were taught the subtleties of this work since childhood, because poor parents were forced to sell their children to geisha houses in order to at least ensure their continued existence for themselves and their children. Currently, there is a law according to which a girl can go to study to be a geisha once she turns 15 years old and graduates from high school (for employment, you must show a high school diploma).
These girls become servants of geishas, doing cleaning and cooking, and only after some time they are invited to be assistants to senior geishas. In addition to daily duties, they must attend geisha classes, where they are taught dancing, music, painting, and other such things that they will need in their future work. In addition, every geisha must have a good understanding of politics and always be aware of the events taking place in the world, as they often have to work with clients who occupy various positions in the state apparatus.
Geisha training never stops, it happens throughout life. Six months later, female students take an exam and undergo a kind of initiation ceremony - “misedasi”, at which they are officially given the title “maiko”. Each maiko is given a mentor who helps in training, and later even helps to make clients for the newly-made geisha. The more influence a mentor has, the more opportunities open up for maiko in the future. Maiko pays a lot of attention to personal care, and has a lot of secrets that are passed down from generation to generation. These secrets help the girl to attract clients.
Almost everyone thinks that the profession of a geisha is related to prostitution, but that is totally wrong. A long time ago, a law was introduced, according to which geishas have no right to provide intimate services for money. However, there are so-called onen-geysya, which are known for the lack of skill in the fields of art and politics, which they make up for by selling their body. They have nothing to do with real geishas.
Geisha's job is to deliver aesthetic pleasure to the client. They can flirt a little with the guests, but they do not practice sexual activity and receive money only for mental work.
Meeting With a Japanese Girl
Japanese girls are cute and mysterious. But is it so easy to understand their deep nature for foreigners? This review summarizes the experience of foreigners who met with Japanese women, describes how to avoid misunderstanding and what you shouldn’t be afraid of.
Keep in mind that every person is an individuality, and nobody is perfect. This is just a description of relationships with a typical Japanese bride.
Finding Your Love
For non-Japanese guys it is much easier to find a Japanese girlfriend than for non-Japanese women, since girls in this country often want to meet with foreigners. You will understand what I’m talking about if you ever get to visit Japan. Even outside the country, the situation will be the same.
Quite often, though not surprisingly, the guys get to know their beloved ones thanks to the English, be it a school for learning English or some other hobby. At times girls can come up to you to practice English.
This is what happens when you go to Japan as a foreigner. Although, English still does not play such an important role for the beginning of a relationship. Apparently, the majority of foreigners in Japan are engaged in studying English, which is why so many romantic stories are associated with it. You can easily look for your Japanese girl in other places such as bars, clubs, and on dating sites.
First of all, you will have to pay for everything, except for purikura, because girls have enough money to pay for it themselves. For example, if you go out to dinner together, be prepared to pay for the meal. Same goes for clothes and other stuff. However, keep in mind that there are always exceptions.
There is also an interesting difference in perception related to where you're from. For example, most of the guys get surprised when they receive gifts from their Japanese wives. Japan is in principle a country where gifts are often presented, so everything seems to be natural, but still be ready for this.
Depending on the culture, expectations of “how a guy should behave” and “how a girl should behave” will differ.
Expressing Your Feelings
In general, people in Japan show much less of their feelings in public (and in private, too) compared to representatives of Western countries. Japanese brides are not comfortable with holding hands, hugging and kissing in public places. You also have to be ready that the first kiss might happen a lot later than you expect. However, you won’t have to wait for too long with the first sex.
Most of the Western couples openly kiss and hug each other both in private and in public. So they make it clear that they love each other. In Japan, this is not accepted. Much more important thing is understanding your partner. This skill is extremely important in Japan, in part because of the rarity of physical contact. At first, it might be difficult for you to understand the thoughts and feelings of your beloved Japanese. This is because Japanese people prefer not to speak directly about their experiences.
In Japan, you will be expected to understand the feelings and read the thoughts of others, while they will not show them. The Japanese learn this throughout their lives, while Europeans and Americans usually say everything directly, so it will take some time to adjust to this.
When a girl is upset about something, she will never say it directly, and problems can arise if the guy does not notice that something is wrong. In such cases, it is important to be able to notice the hints of the Japanese lover. To you it might seem like nothing special is happening, while your girlfriend will begin to think that you are an insensitive egoist. If you are having problems with this, you can try talking to your Japanese love and resolve this issue.
Speaking the Same Language
In a relationship where the man is a foreigner, there is such a tendency that the couple mostly speaks his native language. Although they live in Japan and sometimes already have children who also speak Japanese, most of the foreign men do not know Japanese and have no desire to learn it.
They are not able to do anything on their own. When they are asked how they purchased their mobile phone or credit card, they simply answer that they do not know because their wife did it for them.
Therefore, they do not see the need to learn Japanese, because their wives will take care of everything.
Meeting Her Family
Meeting the family of a Japanese bride might seem like a frightening experience, but in reality it’s quite the opposite. Most of the parents are very nice, hospitable, and will not try to kill you while you are sleeping for meeting their precious Japanese daughter.
Why Asian Brides Prefer Foreigners
Women in Japan at all times had their place clearly defined by traditions and unwritten laws. Western tolerance and a respectful attitude toward women in Japan is by no means accepted. In Japanese, there is a common expression: "danson, jihi" (which means: "respect a man and despise a woman"). For men, it is customary to refer to a wife with the pronoun Omae, which by value refers to the subordinate. At the same time, when a wife wants to refer to a husband she uses the polite anata, adopted in relation to the parent. However, in modern families, especially in large cities, many husbands and wives use a polite pronoun (you) when referring to each other, which is an indicator of the influence of Western culture. This trend began to spread after the Second World War, and became even more intensified in modern conditions.
The sense of subordination, that is more or less conscious, contributes to the oppression of the emotions of a Japanese woman. From early childhood, the education of girls is based on prohibitions, endless humiliation, coercion and suppression of the individual. They are convinced that there is nothing good in life, that they do not deserve love, that life gives them nothing, and only takes away everything from them. And that their duty is to sacrifice themselves for the sake of others, even if it does not bring them happiness.
She is treated absolutely differently than her brothers. Moreover, having matured, she discovers that she is a non-full member of the family, because sooner or later she will be married to someone else’s family, where they will wait for her to give birth and raise children. The Japanese religion, Buddhism, teaches that a woman stands below a man, that she bears evil, and that she is the cause of strife. To attain the state of nirvana, eternal rest and bliss, a woman she must be reborn as a man. For this, she is obliged to suffer, because only that way she can be forgiven for her inborn sins.
Japanese brides are obviously not happy with such lives and some of them do everything they can to become free. Therefore, they become mail-order-brides and look for a man abroad. They feel like moving on to a handsome and caring foreigner that lives in a better place is truly a dream and a chance to start their lives over.
- Last updated: 09 Oct 2019
- Author: AAbrides